Marriage is a union between two people that is built on the foundation of trust, love, and commitment. But marriage can come with its own set of struggles that can challenge even the most committed couples. In this article, we will look at the good, the bad, and the ugly of common marriage struggles so that we can find solutions and work towards a healthier, happier relationship.

Marriage struggles come in many different forms and can be caused by a variety of different factors. Some of the most common marriage struggles include communication issues, financial hardships, infidelity, and managing expectations. Each couple is unique, so these issues can manifest differently in each relationship.

In this article, we will discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of common marriage struggles. We will look at positive strategies to help couples work through these issues and also discuss the potential negative cognitive and behavioral consequences of not dealing with marriage struggles. We will also look at how to recognize and address the ugly parts of marriage struggles, helping couples form healthier and stronger relationships. By the end of this article, you should have a better understanding of how to navigate common marriage struggles and have some helpful strategies for doing so.

The Good

A. Identifying Common Challenges
Marriage can have its share of struggles, and yet, many of these are shared across couples in longstanding relationships. Some of these common issues include financial insecurity, infidelity, differences in parenting styles, and even living in close proximity. Identifying that both partners are struggling with the same problems can be immensely relieving, as it takes the burden off of one partner’s shoulders. In addition, it can help both partners better understand where their individual reactions are coming from.

B. Solidifying Relationships Through Challenges
The fact that many couples experience common marriage struggles can be used to your advantage. When couples identify their shared issues, they can have real conversations about these matters. These conversations can help build empathy and an understanding of the issue from both partners’ perspectives. This can strengthen the relationship by helping both partners build a more trusting bond.

C. Building Communication Skills
On top of allowing couples to better empathize with each other, navigating common issues can help build the couple’s communication skills. Marriage struggles can include issues like time management, budgeting, and better listening to each other. By talking through each other’s perspectives, issues can be more quickly and efficiently solved, resulting in both partners feeling heard and respected in the process. By practicing different ways of communicating, couples can also learn which methods of communication work better for them as a team and build stronger relationships by using them together.

The Bad

When it comes to common marriage struggles, it can be easy to focus on the good things. But realistically, we need to talk about the bad if we want to create real change within our marriages. Here are a few of the ‘bad’ issues that tend to arise.

A. Lack of Patience

In the beginning, when the relationship is still new, it can be easy to forgive and overlook the little annoyances that come with spending time with someone new. But as the marriage wears on and those annoyances add up over time, the lack of patience can lead to significant issues. We need to be realistic and start practicing patience with each other if we want our marriage to last.

B. Lack of Communication

Few would argue that communication is a key part of any successful marriage, yet in many cases, it is the first thing that falls by the wayside. Whether it’s because of exhaustion or simply a familiar comfort in routine, couples can easily fall into the trap of not communicating. We need to make sure we’re checking in with our partner regularly and making sure to open up and talk about our feelings, no matter how difficult it might seem.

C. Unresolved Conflicts

Every couple has had their fair share of conflicts, but it’s how we work together to resolve these conflicts that can make or break our marriage. If we’re too scared to talk about things from the past or if we simply avoid conflict altogether, that means the underlying issues are never actually tackled. We all need to understand our partner’s needs and learn how to effectively address any unresolved conflicts head-on and come together to work out a solution.

Overall, it’s important to remember that any marriage comes with its fair share of struggles, no matter how ‘good’ it may seem from the outside. We need to take a step back and recognize the ‘bad’ issues and make an effort to address them before they become too big and too difficult to face.

The Ugly

A. Negativity
NEGATIVITY can rear its ugly head in almost any situation, but it can be particularly destructive in marriage situations. Negativity can take many forms: disrespecting each other’s opinions, blatant insult, and sarcasm are all types of negativity that can drive a wedge between spouses. When one spouse is constantly negative, the other tends to respond in kind, leading to a downward spiral of negative feelings that often becomes insurmountable. Negativity has the power to erode all the good feelings you have when it comes to your marriage and can make you dread seeing each other.

B. Disrespect
DISRESPECT can be just as damaging as negativity, though it expresses itself in different ways. In marriage, disrespect often comes in forms of belittling behavior or ignoring what either spouse says. This can not only damage the communication process, but can also make one spouse think that their opinion doesn’t matter and that their partner doesn’t value or care about their feelings. This type of disrespect can cause deep pain and a lack of trust in the marriage.

C. Divorce
DIVORCE may seem like a simple solution when marriage struggles become too difficult to handle, but the truth is that divorce is never an easy solution. It’s like tearing open a wound that has never healed, and often has long-lasting consequences that aren’t easily reversible. Divorce may be the right solution in the right situation, but it’s never one to take lightly. Commonly, couples don’t take the time to try to resolve their differences and end up divorcing too soon. Divorce isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it should be carefully considered and worked toward, rather than assuming it’s the best solution.


Marriage can be an incredibly rewarding experience, but can also pose unique struggles as two people work together as a couple. Recognizing and overcoming negativity is key to both understanding and progressing beyond these struggles. Resolving conflicts and improving communication are two fundamental pieces of any healthy marriage. Finally, focusing on the positives and investing in the marriage is a proactive approach to ensure a successful relationship. With these tips in mind, couples can find strength and success in their marriage, no matter what bumps in the road may come along.

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